How they relate to the Ex.

When you are single as I am for the most part of your adult life and you get to date "new" guys often, you develop a preference as to how you want them to relate to their exes. I have gone out with guys that absolutely hate their ex. The break up was very bad. And there is the other end of the spectrum where they are best buddies with their ex. They do things together all the time. It is like they are still dating but without the sex. Now which one would I rather date? In an ideal world, I would prefer to date somebody who does not hate their ex but does not keep in touch with each either. If they encounter their ex, they can be cordial and exchange pleasantries but does not seek out each other's company as "friends". For me, ex are like baggages you don't want to bring in the new relationship. Dating somebody who is too attached to their ex even if it is just platonic can be a sticky issue. You never know if he is actually over the ex or if you are just the consolation prize since he can't have the ex anymore. You want them to have completely moved on. On the otherhand, if their blood boils by the mere mention of the ex can be a turn off too. Will they feel the same about you when you break up? Is this a guy who can't learn to forgive and move on? Could it be that they really still have feelings for their ex that is expressed as anger and hatred for a betrayal done to them? Afterall, indifference to somebody means the absence of any feelings be it love or anger.