Sunday, October 05, 2008

Coping mechanisms

There are many ways I have seen/experienced people cope with loneliness, rejection, lost, depression or low self esteem. Some are pretty positive and healthy, some are destructive while some are just amusing. Here are some of these coping mechanisms.

- Over eating or eating unhealthy food. Chocolate, burgers and pork rinds.
- Having anonymous pity sex with people beneath you. These are people you normally would not considered having sex with. You are at least a 7 and this person is no more than a 4. And you end up feeling worse after doing it.
- Being obsessed with certain actor or public figure. You just want to know everything about Queen Latifa. You make a fanpage or blog for her. You join the fanclub. You buy her T-shirt, cap, CD and mug. You travel miles just to see her show.
- Being obsessed with certain hobby like collecting coins. You just got to have that certain coin to complete your collection. You scour craigslist and ebay all night long for that coin.
- Getting a pet and being obsessed with it. Your life now revolves around your dog. "I can't go to the movie cause I don't want to leave Fido alone". You dress Fido with doggie outfit and sunglasses.
- Killing yourself. That's very bad.
- Joining some religious group or cult. Now you are all about buddhism and chanting. All your new friends are buddist. Or you are now a strict kabbalist, diet and kabbala bracelet included. Or worse, you are now a jihadist muslim. Kill the infidels.
- Being obsessed with a skill like tap dancing or piano playing. You perform for your friends. You tape yourself in youtube.
- Take up a bad habit or drugs. You are now a meth addict and you even have a home lab to make meth. You go to the rave and circuit parties every weekend high on meth and coke and E.
- Start gambling. You go every weekend to Joliet to go to the river boat casinos. You go to Vegas and end up being thousands of dollars in debt.
- Shopping beyond your means. You buy Diesel or Energy designer jeans on credit card. You buy Manolo and Jimmy Choo shoes on credit. The problem with this, credit makes it seems you can afford these when you can't in reality.
- Being obsessed with your friends or family. You just got to hang out every weekend with Jane. You call her every night just to chat. She needs a break from you for God's sake!
- You go online every night for hours to watch x-tube or find that next hook up in manhunt.

What's your coping mechanism?

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